St. Odilia Funeral Ministry

  • Christians celebrate the funeral rites to offer worship, praise, and thanksgiving to God for the gift of a life which has now been returned to God, the author of life and the hope of the just. The Mass, the memorial of Christ's death and resurrection, is the principal celebration of the Christian funeral.
    ~ Order of Christian Funerals
    The death of a loved one is a difficult time for families. At St. Odilia, our commitment is to assist the family of the deceased in preparing a meaningful celebration of life both on earth and eternal life.

    Procedures for Anointing of the Sick at St. Odilia
    When a person is seriously ill:
    Call the parish office at 651-484-6681; follow the prompts to access the after-hours answering service 24 hours a day. The call is referred to a priest or pastoral minister. Arrangements can be made to come to the nursing home, hospital, or your home to anoint your loved one. Only the priest can administer the Sacrament of the Sick. Anyone on the pastoral staff is happy to come and pray with you.
    When a family member is dying:
    Call the parish office at 651-484-6681; follow the prompts to access the after-hours answering service 24 hours a day. If the family member needs to be anointed, then a priest will be contacted and arrangements will be made. Please indicate if the dying person can receive Holy Communion. If so, the priest will administer Viaticum. Many hospitals have chaplains on site and they are also available if the parish cannot be contacted.

    Funeral Procedures at St. Odilia
    After the death of your loved one:
    Contact the parish office at 651-484-6681. When the parish office is closed, please follow the prompts for an emergency to access the after-hours answering service, to avoid delays. We will work with you and your funeral director to schedule the funeral, based on the availability of our facilities and clergy. It is our policy that funerals take precedence over most other activities.
    The normal time for funerals is weekday mornings. Due to the extensive use of the church on evenings and Saturdays for parish needs, evening and Saturday funerals should be considered a rare exception. No Mass of Christian Burial or Memorial Mass may be scheduled on Sundays, Feast Days, or during the Paschal Triduum (Holy Thursday evening through Easter Sunday).

    Families usually meet with the funeral director first and confirm arrangements. Family members then meet with the funeral coordinator to plan the liturgy (readings, music, and other details), and with the priest who will preside at the funeral.

    The most commonly chosen schedule for visitation includes two to three hours at the funeral home on the evening before the funeral liturgy, which may include a Vigil Service if desired. St. Odilia offers one hour of gathering/visitation for the public, prior to the funeral Mass. The family is welcome to arrive half an hour before the public. If the family desires an extended visitation time, we suggest they utilize the services of a funeral home with the facilities and staffing to accommodate their needs.
    The parish will provide, on request, up to 4 easels for photo display boards, and one table for display items. If additional displays are desired, we will arrange for tables to be set up in the courtyard where the luncheon will be located.
    Slideshows may be presented during the visitation timeframe, and appropriate secular music may be incorporated within the slideshow.  No slideshows are allowed during the liturgy. Prepared slideshows should be either a PowerPoint presentation brought on a CD or jump drive, or a video on a DVD.
    Funeral Liturgy Planning

    The celebration of the Christian funeral brings hope and consolation to those that are grieving. 
    Here are some of the choices you’ll be invited to make for your loved one’s Funeral Liturgy:

    The Word of God
    In every celebration for the dead, the Church attaches great importance to the reading of the Word of God. The readings proclaim to the assembly the paschal mystery, teach remembrance of the dead, convey the hope of being gathered together again in God’s Kingdom, and encourage the witness of Christian life. 
    Suggested Funeral Readings
    The following are lists of Scriptures appropriate for use at Catholic Funeral Liturgies. One reading is chosen from each the Old Testament, the New Testament, and the Gospels. (Other Scripture passages may be used on approval.)

    Old Testament

    Genesis 9:8-17 “…This is the sign of the covenant I have established…”

    2 Maccabees 12:43-46 "...he made atonement for the dead..."  

    Job 19: 1, 23-27  "...I know that my vindicator lives...."

    Proverbs 31:10-12,15,20,25-26,28-31  “…the woman who fears the Lord is to be praised…”

    Ecclesiastes 3:1-15  "...A time to be born, a time to die..." 

    Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 "...A time to be born, a time to die..."

    Wisdom 3:1-9 "...The souls of the just are in the hand of God..." 

    Wisdom 3:1-6,9 "...The souls of the just are in the hand of God..."

    Wisdom 4:7-14 "The Righteous One, though he die early, shall be at rest..."

    Sirach 2:1-11 " fire gold is tested....Compassionate is the Lord..." 

    Isaiah 25:6a, 7-9 "...he will destroy death forever..." 

    Isaiah 26:7-19 "...your dead shall live, their corpses shall rise..."

    Isaiah 35:1-10 "...Here is your God, he comes with vindication..." 

    Isaiah 40:1-11 "...Here is your God, Here comes with power..."

    Jeremiah 29:11-13 “…I know well the plans I have in mind for you…”

    Lamentations 3:17-26 "...My portion is the Lord, says my soul..."

    Ezekiel 34:11-16 “…I myself will search for my sheep…”

    Ezekiel 37:12-14 "O my people, I will open your graves and have you rise..." 

    Daniel 12:1-3 "...the wise shall shine brightly..." 

    Micah 7:7-9 "...though I sit in darkness, the Lord is my light..."
    New Testament

    Acts of the Apostles 10:34-43 "Everyone who believes in him will receive forgiveness of sins"

    Acts of the Apostles 10:34-36,42-43 "Everyone who believes in him will receive forgiveness of sins"

    Romans 5:1,5-11  "...We were reconciled to God through the death of his Son..."

    Romans 5:17-21 "...through one righteous act acquittal and life came to all..." 

    Romans 6:3-9  "...if we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall live with him..." 

    Romans 6:3-4,8-9 "...if we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall live with him..." 

    Romans 8:1-11  "There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ..." 

    Romans 8:14-23 "Those who are led by the Spirit of God are Children of God"

    Romans 8:31-35,37-39 "If God is for us, who can be against us?"

    Romans 14:7-9,10-12 "This is why Christ died and came to life"

    1 Corinthians 2:6-10 "Eye has not seen, and ear has not heard..." 

    1 Corinthians 15:12-20  "If there is no resurrection of the dead..."

    1 Corinthians 15:20-28 "In Adam all die, so too if Christ shall all be brought to life."

    1 Corinthians 15:51-57 "Death where is your victory?"

    2 Corinthians 4:14-5:1  "The one who raised the Lord Jesus will raise us..."

    2 Corinthians 5:1,6-10 "We would rather leave the body and go home..." 

    Philippians 3:7-14 "...I run toward the prize to which God calls me..."

    Philippians 3:20-21  "He will change our lowly body..."

    1 Thessalonians 4:13-18  "If we believe that Jesus died and rose..."

    2 Timothy 2:8-13 "Remember Jesus Christ, raised from the dead..." 

    2 Timothy 4:1-2,6-8 "I have competed well, I have finished the race..." 

    1 John 3:1-2 "Beloved, we are God's children now..."

    1 John 3:14-16  "We know that we have passed from death to life..."

    Revelation 14:13 "...Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord..."

    Revelation 20:11-12:1 "...The sea gave up its dead; then Death and Hades..."

    Revelation 21:1-5a,6b-7 "...I also saw the holy city, a new Jerusalem..."

    Matthew 5:1-12a  "The Eight Beatitudes"

    Matthew 11:25-30  "Come to me . . . and I will give you rest."

    Matthew 25:1-13  "Look. The bridegroom comes. Go out to meet him"

    Matthew 25:31-46  "Come, you whom my Father has blessed" 

    Mark 15:33-39  "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" 

    Mark 15:33 --16:6  "Jesus gave a loud cry and breathed his last" 

    Luke 7:11-17  "Young man, I say to you, arise." 

    Luke 12:35-40  "Be prepared, for at an hour you do not expect,..." 

    Luke 23:33, 39-43  "Today you will be with me in paradise."

    Luke 23:44--24:6a  "Father, I put my life in your hands."

    Luke 23:44-49  "Father into your hands I commend my spirit"

    Luke 24:13-35 "Was it not necessary that the Christ should suffer..."

    Luke 24:13-16,28-35  "Were not our hearts burning within us..."

    John 5:24-29  "Whoever hears my word and believes has passed from..."

    John 6:37-40 "All who believe in the Son will have eternal life..." 

    John 6:51-58  "All who eat this bread will live forever...." 

    John 11:17-27 "I am the resurrection and the life."

    John 11:21-27  "I am the resurrection and the life."

    John 11:32-45  "Lazarus, come out."

    John 12:23-28  "If a grain of wheat falls on the ground and dies..."

    John 12:23-26  "If a grain of wheat falls on the ground and dies..." 

    John 14:1-6  "There are many rooms in my Father's house." 

    John 17:24-26  "Father, I want those you have given me to be with me..." 

       Music is integral to the funeral rites.  The music at funerals should support, console and uplift the participants and should help to create in them a spirit of hope in Christ’s victory over death and in the Christian’s share in that victory.
    We encourage families to select the music for the funeral liturgy with the assistance of the funeral coordinator. Music selections for the funeral Mass should be suitable to the sacred nature of the funeral service. St. Odilia musicians will provide music for all funerals. If a family requests, additional soloists or instrumentalists may be added. 

    Alleluia, Sing To Jesus 
    Amazing Grace
    Be Not Afraid
    Children of the Light
    Glory And Praise To Our God
    Morning Has Broken
    The King of Love My Shepherd Is

    Ps. 23 – Shepherd Me, O God
    Ps. 23 – And I Will Follow
    Ps. 25 - To You I Lift Up My Soul - Gospel Style
    Ps. 25 – To You I lift Up My Soul (traditional)  
    Ps. 63 - Your Love Is Finer Than Life  
    Ps. 103 - The Lord Is Kind And Merciful
    Ps. 121 Our Help Comes from the Lord

    Eye Has Not Seen
    Lord, When You Came to the Seashore
    Prayer Of St. Francis (Make Me A Channel Of Your Peace)
    Precious Lord, Take My Hand
    Quietly, Peacefully
    We Walk By Faith 
    Where Would We Go Without You, Lord
    Center of My Life

    Here I Am, Lord
    I Am The Bread Of Life (And I Will Raise You Up)
    On Eagle's Wings

    Children of the Light (See Entrance Songs)
    How Great Thou Art   ( no recording)
    Just a Closer Walk With Thee
    Lord of All Hopefulness
    Sing A New Song (Unto The Lord)
    Sing With All The Saints In Glory (Hymn Of Joy)
    I Danced in the Morning
    We Shall Rise Again

    I Can Only Imagine
    You Raise Me Up (Prelude only)
    Hail Mary,Gentle Woman
    Come to Jesus
    In the Garden
    Turn, Turn, Turn
    Panis Angelicus

    Jesus, Remember Me
    The Hand of God Shall Hold You
    May the Angels Lead You into Paradise

    Liturgical Roles
    We encourage family members or friends to fill these roles:

    Readers (Old Testament, New Testament, Prayers of the Faithful)
    We suggest choosing someone who is familiar with the Catholic Mass, and can proclaim clearly and is comfortable in front of large groups of people. Be sure to give them a copy of the reading in advance. On arrival, the funeral assistant will acquaint the readers with the use of our microphones.
    Gift Bearers
    Two or more people carry up the bread and wine, and additional items if desired, for the Preparation of Gifts.
    Communion Cup Servers
    Eucharist will be offered under both species. St. Odilia communion ministers are available, unless the family has communion ministers who wish to serve. Be sure to notify the funeral coordinator. They must be Catholic, and trained and commissioned from their home parish.
    One family member is welcome to share Words of Remembrance following communion, with a suggested 3-5 minute maximum.  If additional eulogizing is desired, we suggest these be done either at the wake service at the funeral home, or in the courtyard during the funeral luncheon.

    Rite of Committal
    Burial is scheduled according to the requirements of the cemetery chosen by the family. The preferred time for a burial is following the funeral liturgy or the luncheon, in which case a priest will accompany the family to the cemetery for the Rite of Committal. This rite does not require a priest and may also be done by a deacon or lay person.  If burial is delayed (i.e. due to cremation following the funeral), please contact the parish for pastoral presence when the burial is scheduled.

    Funeral lunch ministry  

    We at St. Odilia want to do everything possible to support your family.  It is for this reason that our Funeral Luncheon Committee will serve a lunch after the funeral liturgy, burial or evening service.  The following information will help you plan for the luncheon.

    Please give the liturgist the name and phone number of a relative, neighbor, or friend who will be the contact person for the luncheon. Our funeral luncheon coordinator will call the contact person to make all arrangements. 

    Food can be purchased and brought in by friends, neighbors, and relatives of the deceased. The food must be store bought, no homemade, potluck items are allowed. 

    Food can also be catered.  The luncheon coordinator has information regarding catering services and companies if the family prefers to arrange for the food purchase in this manner.

    The parish will provide regular and de-caf coffee, sugar and creamer, ice water, lemonade and all paper products, silverware, etc. for the luncheon.

    Food is to be brought to the Courtyard before the Mass or Service. The luncheon volunteers take care of assembling the food for the buffet table, setting the tables, serving the food, cleaning up and packing up the leftover food, which is given to the family.

    Please be aware that we are not equipped to prepare and cook food on site. However, food that needs to be refrigerated or re-heated will be taken care of accordingly.

    The fee to have a funeral luncheon at St. Odilia is $150.    

    If we can help in any other way or if you have any questions, please feel free to call the Parish Office – (651) 484-6681.                             


     Commonly Asked Questions about Funerals:

    What is the difference between a Mass of Christian Burial and a Memorial Mass?

    A Mass of Christian Burial takes place with the remains of the deceased person present.
    A Memorial Mass/Service is held in memory of the deceased person, but no remains are present.

    What does the Catholic Church say about cremation?
    Cremation is accepted by the Roman Catholic Church. It is preferred that the body of the deceased be present at the funeral liturgy and cremation take place afterward, but it is also acceptable for the cremation to take place first and the cremains to be present at the funeral liturgy. The Catholic Church requires that the cremains be buried, or interred, as a whole following the funeral, just as a body would be interred.